You feel so alone in the world.
Although you recall having a decent childhood, you always felt slightly off compared to the other kids around you, as if you didn’t fit in.
Maintaining friend groups in school was hard; somehow, you always felt excluded and misunderstood. And you continuously ended up on the periphery.
Unfortunately, you did not grow from failing to form lasting attachments as an adult.
“Where do I belong?” remains an unanswered question.
As an adult, you feel like your friends come and go from your life, and they don’t get you. And you think, “How could they anyway? I am too much of a mess! Why do I bother trying?”
Additionally, maintaining meaningful intimate relationships eludes you.
The dating scene leaves you frustrated and exhausted, making you want to give up.
Not knowing where you belong makes you worry that you might be alone forever.
Some wounds early in life don’t quickly heal.
Adverse experiences in childhood have a way of carrying over into adulthood, especially if the cause is dysfunctional parenting.
Learning to cope with growing up in a dysfunctional family can result in self-isolation as a defense mechanism to confusion around you. As a result, you might find it hard to establish meaningful relationships, and these problematic childhood experiences can remain as an adult.
Dysfunctional parenting has many causes. The family experience may be stressful or fighting, emotionally detached, or over-authoritarian.
Whatever the dysfunction, the impact can cause a negative outcome for the child. Identifying the cause of your dysfunctional parenting is where therapy can help.
Recovering from dysfunctional parenting is possible.
Our first step in this recovery work is understanding your childhood relational attachment style. Then, we will determine how you developed that attachment style. Additionally, we will explore how the inability to form attachments impacts you now.
Identifying the root cause or causes of your inability to form attachments will help us develop a road map of how to help you learn new and healthy ways of relating to others while meeting your needs. The road map may include work such as developing communication skills, understanding boundary setting, discovering self-needs and values, and getting comfortable managing emotions.
Attachment work can often positively impact all types of relationships, including work colleagues, family members, friends, intimate partners, and ultimately with yourself!
Start the healing transformation now! Contact me to learn more about recovering from attachment wounds of the past!